Your Sober Era: The Unexpected Hurdles

Are you on this path too? Let's be friends 💕🙏

Honestly, let me tell you what sucks (at first) about this path.

Old friends no longer want to talk to you.

Old friends judge you and take it personally.

Not just because you're not participating...

But because when you're getting sober, you start to react differently. And that doesn't sit right with people who aren't actually there for you or your growth. They take it personally instead of for what it really is.

You're just trying to heal and feel whole.

Their assumptions? Not helpful, they end up cutting like daggers until you grow more deeply into your healthy self 🗡️

When you're sober, you have more boundaries and ask more questions. You become more aware of what systems trap people, you start becoming vocal...

And all of a sudden YOU'RE THE CRAZY ONE 🙃

And don't get me started on how becoming married / settled in with a spouse and being sober REALLY cuts you off from those who think happiness can be found in a club 🤷‍♀️

If you focus on old friendships, you will become lonely becoming sober, and it can easily lead to a relapse.

If you become sober and only changed what was in your cup (instead of the thoughts and habits that came along with it) then you feel like you're stuck in a limbo.

I'm not judging anyone when I say these things, but I am saying that friends come and go, based on what reality you choose to subscribe to.

I've had to let go of LIFELONG friendships I had in my youth because they're just not on the same journey I am. Maybe we'll cross paths again, maybe not, but I have to have faith in the choices I've made, and trust that people who love me understand that I'm a complex person going through my own shizzz, just like they are.

And if they're real friends, they'll stop and ask you what's up. They won't go off on you like your healing is a threatening inconvenience to them.

I don't want you to feel alone 🥺

I want you to be happy 🥰

And I want you to know all these feelings are normal when you're remembering and re-emerging into your true self. It won't last forever.

Before you know it, precious angels will enter your life and show you a greater depth of love and support 😇💕